At first your daughter doesn’t even know that she’s separate from you. Her understanding of what it means to be a woman comes largely from observing you and she learns by copying you. You show her how to take care of herself, not only in the way that you nurture her but also in the way that you cherish yourself.
Make five minutes each day just to be with her. You may already spend hours every day with her but this has a different intentional quality. Spend five minutes just sitting beside her and watching her, really watching her. Pay really good attention to her. Nothing more. Look at her face, her eyes, the way she holds herself, the way she moves, the way she talks. Smile at her if she looks at you.
One minute your daughter is playing with her dollies and the next she’s wanting to borrow your eyeliner. Suddenly your little girl is dressing like a teenager and she’s worried that she’s fat. Her girl friends seem to have so much influence over what she wants.
Your daughter’s probably beginning to spend more time away from you and with her friends. Perhaps this coincides with you spending more time away from home too.
Make it an unquestioned commitment that you will honour…