About Rites for Girls

Our mission is to change the world – one girl at a time.
Rites for Girls mentors girls right through their adolescence and we train women to facilitate girls’ groups. In Girls Journeying Together groups preteen girls prepare for puberty and learn how to take charge of their emotional, social, and mental well-being.

This guidance continues through their teenage years. Our Facilitators also support their mothers as the girls journey through this pivotal phase. Girls’ Net provides guidance and camaraderie through times of challenge to small groups of same-age girls (aged 8-18) in weekly online sessions.  Our Mentors offer tools for coping well and the girls access their inner resources while also realising that they’re not alone.

We aim to make growing up for girls an easier, safer, and better supported journey.

Rites for Girls Board

Kim McCabe

Kim McCabe is the founder and director of Rites for Girls, author of ‘From Daughter to Woman’, and mother of three. As the originator and facilitator of Girls Journeying Together and Girls’ Net groups her vision is that every girl grows up expecting guidance as she matures and knowing of a girls’ group she can join.

“I studied child psychology at Cambridge University, was a counsellor to young people and taught sex education in schools and youth groups. I also trained as an assertiveness trainer, a 5 Rhythms shamanic dance teacher, and a business management consultant.

In my early twenties, I worked as a counsellor to distressed teenagers. Girls were harming themselves physically and mentally and I promised myself that I’d find a way to equip girls so they wouldn’t end up endangering their well-being. After thirty-five years of working with young people, I have found a way to give girls the robust support they need to see them through their teens.

I live in the Ashdown Forest, near Forest Row in Sussex, England. As a home-educating mother of one girl, two boys, two cats, and a number of aloe vera plants; wife to a Kiwi, daughter to itinerant parents, friend to a cherished few, and lover of time alone too, I sometimes shout at my children, accidentally step on the cat’s tail, or forget to water the plants, but I love them all.”

Helena Løvendal

Helena Løvendal was born in Denmark in 1958.  She has worked in private practice in London, UK, since 1988, is co-founder and Director of The Centre For Gender Psychology & Creative Couple Work, and originator of ‘Ways of Woman’ inner leadership programs which she has led since 1993.  Helena offers psychotherapy, coaching, and workshops for individuals and couples, as well as specialist training and supervision for professionals in the field of relationship and sex and gender relations in the UK, Scandinavia, Russia, and mainland Europe.  One of the first qualified Sexual Grounding Therapists®, she is a SGT Senior Trainer and has been Head of Education SGT International since May 2013. Her first book ‘Sex, Love and the Dangers of Intimacy – a Guide to Passionate Relationships when the “Honeymoon” is over’, published by HarperCollins in 2002, was re-published in 2010 by Lone Arrow Press.

Patricia Patterson-Vanegas

I am a change-maker. The drive behind my portfolio career is to increase wellbeing at individual, corporate and national levels. A Politics of Wellbeing underpins all that I do and incorporates political reform, environmental protection, social justice, gender equity, social cohesion, personal growth and emotional resilience. My dream is to help build a society that is ecologically respectful, compassionate, joyful and resilient.

My corporate experience includes financial consultancy to major companies in Latin America and senior appointments in Apple Computers and in the software industry in the UK. I am the founder and former editor-in-chief of Juno, and an accredited emotional coach. I have consulted for start-up companies such as Soza Health, and online businesses like Peaceful Eating. I am a district councillor involved in several community projects, mentor, tutor and coach.

Connection to the work of Rites for Girls
Through my editorial work with Juno Magazine I followed the development of Rites for Girls from its inception, and I edited From Daughter to Woman: parenting girls safely through their teens by Kim McCabe in 2018. I believe that Rites for Girls is very relevant work in today’s society.

Gemma Quinton-Moulds

Since leaving University (having studied fashion and clothing for four years) my work has centred around design, development and growth.  I have good experience: working in manufacturing and industry (Jaeger Tailoring in the 1990’s); successful business start-ups throughout my working life (including the employment and training of women); education and training of young people especially as these relate to disaffection and challenging behaviour (working with The Prince’s Trust designing and delivering development programmes); the Housing Sector particularly supporting those living with issues relating to Domestic Violence, Homelessness and HIV.  More recently, since becoming a mother, I use my design and management experience to project manage conversions in the building sector.  Most of all I am a mum to three strong, kind, happy daughters.

Karen Abi-Karam

As well as running both Girls Journeying Together and Girls’ Net groups, Karen is undertaking a PhD to explore how we can better support girls and women from menarche to menopause.

In addition to her passion for understanding the needs of those approaching major milestones, Karen brings many years of corporate communications experience and professional connections to Rites for Girls. All of which enable her to support the Board, and her fellow Facilitators and Mentors, to feel equipped to take our work to the wider world, through press and social media outreach.

“For more than 20 years, I have combined my corporate career with a holistic practice as a therapist, doula and independent celebrant and have served on the management teams of several other not-for-profit and membership organisations. I am delighted that my eclectic career and academic pursuits can be put to good use in service of the next generation of young women.”

Our Management Team

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Nicki Brown

Nicki is our Project Manager. When she heard Steve Biddulph talking about Rites for Girls, she was instantly drawn to our mission! She is an Accredited Girls Journeying Together Facilitator, a Girls’ Net Mentor, and part of our management team.

In recent years, Nicki has worked as a school Mental Health Lead, and a Trauma Informed Practitioner for schools and communities. Following a successful career in magazine publishing, she was drawn to work with children and young adults in diverse communities. “My specialist work has focussed on enabling children to overcome challenges that could prevent them from thriving.”

Nicki lives in London with her family. She is a mother of two teenagers, who inspire and motivate her to make a difference for the next generation.

Alex Francis-Sears

Alex is our Operations Manager.  It was her own exploration into rites of passage, after becoming a mother, that led her to Rites for Girls – and with two young daughters, she’s passionate about the work we do. 
Following a fulfilling career in the third sector as an events manager, Alex shifted her focus to become a birth educator. “My work with women helped me realise the power of creating community and supporting one another, especially during times of great change.  I believe this is what Rites for Girls offers, as well as the many other tools girls will learn and value for their journey through adolescence and later through adulthood.”
Alex lives in West Sussex, making the most of the beautiful countryside and pursuing her passion for making things with clay.

Nina Webb

Nina is the Marketing Manager at Rites for Girls, an advocate for women’s rights, and an avid tennis player.

Nina launched a social media and mindset coaching business working with over 100 female business owners to help them become more confident and unapologetic – much like the work we do with girls at Rites for Girls. Before this she worked in digital marketing in the fashion industry, with four years’ experience as an influencer.

After pivoting away from her business, it was essential for Nina to find a job where she fulfilled a sense of purpose and felt like she was making a difference for women – and Rites for Girls is a perfect fit.

Becky Orpin

Becky, our Girls’ Net Administrator since 2020, “really loves being part of the inspirational and wonderful team at Rites for Girls.”

Becky had over 10 years’ experience as a Personal and Executive Assistant to CEO’s, COO’s and MD’s within the Marketing and Advertising Industry before founding her own business in 2017 to provide a professional Virtual Assistant service to businesses.

Becky enjoys homelife in Sussex as mum to one daughter, one son and one dog – and wife to her forever-patient husband.
Life is a constant blur of dance lessons, dog walks, dirty dishes and football matches – but one that she wouldn’t change for the world!


Rites for Girls Ambassador

Golda Rosheuvel

British acting royalty, Golda Rosheuvel is our first Rites for Girls Ambassador. Commenting on her new role, Golda says: “I have become a Rites for Girls Ambassador because I know this is something I would have benefited from as I was approaching my teens. I am inspired by the passion and commitment of the women at Rites for Girls to help girls grow into more confident, empowered, emotionally resourced women and I am delighted to be on board.”

The appointment was cemented after Golda spent the day hearing from girls who have attended groups facilitated by the organisation. “On meeting some of the girls who have been through Rites for Girls programmes, I have heard first-hand how the organisation creates a space for them to share their experiences and learn from one another with openness, honesty and respect – guided by a trained Facilitator or Mentor. I’m honoured to become the first Rites for Girls Ambassador and am looking forward to being part of something that brings a brighter future for the next generation of girls as they navigate the challenges of adolescence and beyond.”

Why do we need Rites for Girls?

Girls are suffering. Surveys show that our children have some of highest rates of anxiety and unhappiness ever, with a 25% rise in mental health problems over the time of the pandemic. Preteen and teen girls are particularly vulnerable. One-quarter of 14-year-old girls in the UK suffer depression1 and one-quarter of 16-24 year old girls have self-harmed2, and this is repeated across the western world. Parents work long hours, extended families live far and wide, teachers are pushed to meet curriculum demands — so girls are relying more on their immature peers for support.

Girls need help with how to manage stress, bullying, divorce, siblings, exams and social media.  Women can give them this support, and other girls can give them a feeling of camaraderie.  Belonging to a girls’ group can be enormously supportive to mothers and daughters alike, giving each girl a community to grow in, with inspiring adults who care about her and take time to guide her.

Rites for Girls helps girls from the age of eight right the way through to their early twenties. Girls tell us that Girls Journeying Together and Girls’ Net gives them a safe place to be themselves, to feel accepted, to learn, to find inner strength and new friends, have fun, and realise that they’re not alone.

Supporting mothers of daughters

No-one should have to parent alone. Rites for Girls offers talks, guidance, and coaching for mothers. Mothers with daughters in Girls Journeying Together groups participate in sharing groups as an integral part of supporting the mothers and their daughters.

Rites of Passage

Initiating our teens into adulthood — so important and so lost in our culture. We leave our adolescents to initiate themselves and we see them attempting to look and behave like adults. Rites for Girls can help you create a meaningful rite of passage for your daughter to acknowledge and celebrate her growing up.

Rites for Girls Facilitator Training

Women are being called to this work. We can see what’s happening to our girls and we want to make a difference. Training to run Girls Journeying Together groups provides meaningful employment that can fit well alongside raising a family and other work or commitments.

Rites for Girls Association

Qualified Facilitators belong to the Rites for Girls Association which oversees their supervision, continued professional development, and supports their work.

Rites for Girls is a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. You can read our policy for safe and ethical provision and our safeguarding policy.

Accredited Facilitators and Mentors

To find out who’s qualified to facilitate Girls Journeying Together groups near you, check the map and read the profile of each accredited practitioner. You can find our list of Girls’ Net Mentors when signing your daughter up to Girls’ Net.

If not listed on this site, then someone is not qualified or sanctioned by us to run Girls Journeying Together or Girls’ Net.

‘From Daughter to Woman, parenting girls safely through their teens’
Kim’s NEW book is published by
Robinson Publishing in 2018.

Browse our range of Mother-Daughter Date Diaries (including a unisex version) as introduced in chapter one of Kim McCabe’s book.

1. McManus, S., Hassiotis, A., Jenkins, R., Dennis, M., Aznar, C., & Appleby, L. (2016). Chapter 12: Suicidal thoughts, suicide
attempts, and self-harm. In S. McManus, P. Bebbington, R. Jenkins, & T. Brugha (Eds.), Mental health and wellbeing in England: Adult Psychiatric Morbidity Survey 2014. Leeds: NHS Digital.

2. Patalay P & Fitzsimons E. Mental ill-health among children of the new century: trends across childhood with a focus on age 14. September 2017. Centre for Longitudinal Studies: London.