Rites for Girls offers mentoring for girls right through their adolescence. In Girls Journeying Together groups pre-teen girls prepare for puberty and learn how to take charge of their emotional, social, and spiritual well-being. This guidance continues through their teenage years. We also support mothers, especially while their daughters journey through their teens. And we offer training for women who want to learn to facilitate girls’ groups. We want to make growing up for girls an easier, safer, and better supported journey.
Kim McCabe is the founder and director of Rites for Girls and a home-educating mother of three. As the originator and facilitator of Girls Journeying Together groups her vision is that every girl grows up expecting guidance as she matures and knowing of a Girls Journeying Together group near to where she lives.
I’m a home-educating mother of one girl, two boys, two cats, and a number of aloe vera plants; wife to a Kiwi, daughter to itinerant parents, friend to a cherished few, and lover of time alone too. I live in the Ashdown Forest, near Forest Row in Sussex, England. I sometimes shout at my children, accidentally step on the cat’s tail, or forget to water the plants, but I love them all.”
Girls are suffering. Surveys show that our children have some of highest rates of anxiety and unhappiness ever. Teen girls are particularly vulnerable. One-quarter of 14 year old girls in the UK suffer depression1 and one-quarter of 16-24 year old girls have self-harmed2, and this is repeated across the western world. Parents work long hours, extended families live far and wide, teachers are pushed to meet curriculum demands — so girls are being abandoned to their immature peers for support.
Girls need help with how to manage stress, bullying, divorce, siblings, exams and social media. Women can give them this support and other girls can give them a feeling of camaraderie. Girls need to know that they are not alone. Belonging to a girls’ group during puberty can be enormously supportive to mothers and daughters alike, giving each girl a community to grow up in, full of inspiring adults who care about her and take time to guide her.
Rites for Girls helps girls from the age of ten right the way through to their early twenties. The support begins with an intensive year of being part of a Girls Journeying Together group, an environment in which each girl is encouraged to be herself, to dress and speak and behave true to however she is that day. They learn how to accept each other and so experience what it’s like to feel accepted by a group of peers. Girls also want to understand what is happening to them as their body changes, their moods fluctuate and their relationships shift. The first year finishes with a special celebration after which the girls continue to meet twice a year throughout their teens.
No-one should have to parent alone. Rites for Girls offers talks, guidance, and coaching for mothers. Mothers with daughters in Girls Journeying Together groups participate in sharing groups as an integral part of supporting the mothers and their daughters.
Initiating our teens into adulthood — so important and so lost in our culture. We leave our adolescents to initiate themselves and we see them attempting to look and behave like adults. Rites for Girls can help you create a meaningful rite of passage for your daughter to acknowledge and celebrate her growing up.
Women are being called to this work. We can see what’s happening to our girls and we want to make a difference. Training to run Girls Journeying Together groups provides meaningful employment that can fit well alongside raising a family and other work or commitments.
The Rites for Girls Association promotes Girls Journeying Together groups and girls’ rites of passage. Our accredited facilitators offer a high standard of provision to girls around the world. Be assured that where you see this logo professional and ethical standards are upheld.
To find out who’s qualified to facilitate Girls Journeying Together groups near you, check the map and read the profile of each accredited practitioner. If not listed on this site then someone is not qualified to run Girls Journeying Together groups or sanctioned by us to do so.
‘From Daughter to Woman, parenting
girls safely through their teens’
Kim’s forthcoming book is published by
Robinson Publishing in 2018.
World bestselling author Steve
Biddulph’s book ‘10 Things Girls Need
Most to grow up strong and free’
featuring a section that Kim was
commissioned to write about rites of
passage for girls.
1. McManus, S., Hassiotis, A., Jenkins, R., Dennis, M., Aznar, C., & Appleby, L. (2016). Chapter 12: Suicidal thoughts, suicide
attempts, and self-harm. In S. McManus, P. Bebbington, R. Jenkins, & T. Brugha (Eds.), Mental health and wellbeing in England: Adult Psychiatric Morbidity Survey 2014. Leeds: NHS Digital.
2. Patalay P & Fitzsimons E. Mental ill-health among children of the new century: trends across childhood with a focus on age 14. September 2017. Centre for Longitudinal Studies: London.