About Rites for Girls
Rites for Girls offers mentoring for girls right through their adolescence. In Girls Journeying Together groups pre-teen girls prepare for puberty and learn how to take charge of their emotional, social, and spiritual well-being. This guidance continues through their teenage years. We also support mothers, especially while their daughters journey through their teens. And we offer training for women who want to learn to facilitate girls’ groups. We want to make growing up for girls an easier, safer, and better supported journey.
Kim McCabe is the founder and director of Rites for Girls and mother of three. As the originator and facilitator of Girls Journeying Together groups her vision is that every girl grows up expecting guidance as she matures and knowing of a Girls Journeying Together group near to where she lives.
“I studied child psychology at Cambridge University, was a counsellor to young people and taught sex education in schools and youth groups. I also trained as an assertiveness trainer, a 5 Rhythms shamanic dance teacher, and a business management consultant.
In my early twenties, I worked as a counsellor to distressed teenagers. Girls were harming themselves physically and mentally and I promised myself that I’d find a way to equip girls so they wouldn’t end up endangering their well-being. After thirty years of working with young people, I have found a way to give girls the robust support they need to see them through their teens.
I’m a home-educating mother of one girl, two boys, two cats, and a number of aloe vera plants; wife to a Kiwi, daughter to itinerant parents, friend to a cherished few, and lover of time alone too. I live in the Ashdown Forest, near Forest Row in Sussex, England. I sometimes shout at my children, accidentally step on the cat’s tail, or forget to water the plants, but I love them all.”
Helena Løvendal was born in Denmark in 1958. She has worked in private practice in London, UK, since 1988, is co-founder and Director of The Centre For Gender Psychology & Creative Couple Work, and originator of ‘Ways of Woman’ inner leadership programs which she has led since 1993. Helena offers psychotherapy, coaching, and workshops for individuals and couples, as well as specialist training and supervision for professionals in the field of relationship and sex and gender relations in the UK, Scandinavia, Russia, and mainland Europe. One of the first qualified Sexual Grounding Therapists®, she is a SGT Senior Trainer and has been Head of Education SGT International since May 2013. Her first book ‘Sex, Love and the Dangers of Intimacy – a Guide to Passionate Relationships when the “Honeymoon” is over’, published by HarperCollins in 2002, was re-published in 2010 by Lone Arrow Press.
I am a change-maker. The drive behind my portfolio career is to increase wellbeing at individual, corporate and national levels. A Politics of Wellbeing underpins all that I do and incorporates political reform, environmental protection, social justice, gender equity, social cohesion, personal growth and emotional resilience. My dream is to help build a society that is ecologically respectful, compassionate, joyful and resilient.
My corporate experience includes financial consultancy to major companies in Latin America and senior appointments in Apple Computers and in the software industry in the UK. I am the founder and former editor-in-chief of Juno, and an accredited emotional coach. I have consulted for start-up companies such as Soza Health, and online businesses like Peaceful Eating. I am a district councillor involved in several community projects, mentor, tutor and coach.
Connection to the work of Rites for Girls
Through my editorial work with Juno Magazine I followed the development of Rites for Girls from its inception, and I edited From Daughter to Woman: parenting girls safely through their teens by Kim McCabe in 2018. I believe that Rites for Girls is very relevant work in today’s society.
Since leaving University (having studied fashion and clothing for four years) my work has centred around design, development and growth. I have good experience: working in manufacturing and industry (Jaeger Tailoring in the 1990’s); successful business start-ups throughout my working life (including the employment and training of women); education and training of young people especially as these relate to disaffection and challenging behaviour (working with The Prince’s Trust designing and delivering development programmes); the Housing Sector particularly supporting those living with issues relating to Domestic Violence, Homelessness and HIV. More recently, since becoming a mother, I use my design and management experience to project manage conversions in the building sector. Most of all I am a mum to three strong, kind, happy daughters.
Why do we need Girls Journeying Together groups?
Girls are suffering. Surveys show that our children have some of highest rates of anxiety and unhappiness ever. Teen girls are particularly vulnerable. One-quarter of 14 year old girls in the UK suffer depression1 and one-quarter of 16-24 year old girls have self-harmed2, and this is repeated across the western world. Parents work long hours, extended families live far and wide, teachers are pushed to meet curriculum demands — so girls are being abandoned to their immature peers for support
Girls need help with how to manage stress, bullying, divorce, siblings, exams and social media. Women can give them this support and other girls can give them a feeling of camaraderie. Girls need to know that they are not alone. Belonging to a girls’ group during puberty can be enormously supportive to mothers and daughters alike, giving each girl a community to grow up in, full of inspiring adults who care about her and take time to guide her.
Supporting mothers of daughters
No-one should have to parent alone. Rites for Girls offers talks, guidance, and coaching for mothers. Mothers with daughters in Girls Journeying Together groups participate in sharing groups as an integral part of supporting the mothers and their daughters.
Rites of Passage
Rites for Girls Facilitator Training
Rites for Girls Association
Women are being called to this work. We can see what’s happening to our girls and we want to make a difference. Training to run Girls Journeying Together groups provides meaningful employment that can fit well alongside raising a family and other work or commitments.
Accredited Facilitators of Girls Journeying Together groups
‘From Daughter to Woman, parenting girls safely through their teens’
Kim’s NEW book is published by
Robinson Publishing in 2018.
1. McManus, S., Hassiotis, A., Jenkins, R., Dennis, M., Aznar, C., & Appleby, L. (2016). Chapter 12: Suicidal thoughts, suicide
attempts, and self-harm. In S. McManus, P. Bebbington, R. Jenkins, & T. Brugha (Eds.), Mental health and wellbeing in England: Adult Psychiatric Morbidity Survey 2014. Leeds: NHS Digital.
2. Patalay P & Fitzsimons E. Mental ill-health among children of the new century: trends across childhood with a focus on age 14. September 2017. Centre for Longitudinal Studies: London.